Each of us desires to be praised by the other, and few of us wished to be blamed by the other, irrespective of whether or not the praise or blame is accurate. That is to say, we appreciate being praised, especially when we feel that it is deserved, but even when it is not, we are appreciative of it. On the other hand, we typically don’t like to be blamed, especially in those cases where that blame is misdirected to us, but even when we are at fault and therefore to be blamed, we seldom embrace such because we dislike the feeling that we get when we are blamed.
So then, to be praised would appear to be something that we should aspire to, and to be blamed appears to be something that is best avoided. The thing is though that there is many a case in which whether we are praised or blamed by the other, we find that the person so adjudging us does not really have all the information so needed to actually correctly render praise or blame, because they do not know all the circumstances so involved, which is the significant reason why we will be praised in a situation in which it really isn’t warranted, and also why we will be blamed when that isn’t warranted, either.
This would seem to indicate that those that are dependent upon receiving praise by their peers or by others, and are duly fearful of being blamed for much of anything, have made the cardinal error of basing whether they consider themselves to be a good person or not, upon what other people have formulated as to their opinion of them, which leads to the type of mindset, in which, we make it our point to then try to look good in every possible circumstance, and are quick to run away from those situations in which we might well be consider to be at blame for something that didn’t go right.
Look, it is strongly suggested that each of us needs to stand up on our own two feet, and just be the best person that we can be – regardless of what the naysayers or believers have to say about us, because at the end of the day, the judgment that we rightly need to fear, is not going to come from people, who are clearly fallible, but rather will come from that which is inerrant. Further to the point, within each of us, good or bad, are characteristics that are praiseworthy as well as those characteristics which are problematic. Clearly, none of us are error-proof, and because of that, we are not perfect, which therefore signifies that each of us has done those things that we should be blamed for, as well as also having done those things which are praise-worthy. Indeed, we need then to put things in perspective, with the understanding that what is expected of us is to learn well from our mistakes so as to become a better person and not to worry about how much praise or blame that we thus receive, but rather we need to essentially care about doing what we can to press forward, one solid step at a time.