In life, there aren’t that many people who don’t have an issue with being unjustly accused of something wrong or bad, such as stealing or cheating or of gossiping, because not only does it reflect poorly upon the character of the person so being accused, but also because there is many a time, when someone is accused of some bad act, in which, truth be told, they are innocent of it, and so then not only is the accusation false, but since it impugns upon one’s character it is the type of thing, that can seriously damage friendships.
Look, no doubt, there are those times when there appears to be money missing or an item has been broken and in our haste to finger the guilty party, we go right ahead and assume things, without really carefully thinking them through, which is poor policy, because before we accuse someone of some crime against us, the least that we owe ourselves and the person so being charged, is a thorough examination of what we believed happened, so that we don’t make any stupid mistakes, before we make our accusation.
For a certainty, we don’t always get things right, and when we are already upset about something bad having happened, we have a tendency not to think as clearly as we would normally, which doesn’t help us in maintaining our sensibility, which is why, whenever there appears to be something missing or damaged, it is best to try to piece together what might have occurred and to consider all possibilities, before we accuse someone of doing something to us.
Indeed, for those who reflect upon those times when they have accused someone of doing something wrong to them, an honest analysis would tell us, that we don’t always get it right, and while there is something to be said for those times for having gotten it right – it does not even come close to how much damage we do when we get it horribly wrong, for not only do we have serious egg on our face, and thereby have to suffer the embarrassment of being wrong, we also have to put forth a suitable retraction of what we said, for it doesn’t feel good to have accused an innocent party of a crime that they didn’t commit, when we subsequently find out that we had it all wrong.
In truth, nobody gets it right 100% of the time, which is why the better part of valor, is to give the benefit of the doubt to the other, before we accuse them of something, for if we want to maintain our moral high ground, this means that we need to get our facts right, and not only that, but we need to make sure that we have taken into account as many possible contingencies that would justify or would serve to nullify what we consider to have been a crime against us.
In sum, whenever it appears that we have been wronged, there shouldn’t be a rush to judgment of the other, but rather we should want to be thorough in our investigation, and only when we have come to what appears to be a reasonable conclusion, should we accuse anyone, and when doing so, we should do so in a way and manner in which we are considerate to the other, just in case, we have it wrong.