Relationships are prone to getting into all sorts of trouble, of which the object of the exercise for both parties, if they are willing to address this, is to deal forthrightly with that which is harmful to their relationship. In fact, one of the main reasons why relationships go sour, has an awful lot to do with frustration, and often that frustration is built around one party believing that they are not being appreciated enough, and because they feel that they are being effectively ignored when they need to be paid attention to, this will often lead to the types of bad acts that frustration creates, which consists of resentment, and a desire for some sort of emotional payback as a form of punishment to the other.
Look, it has to be said, that people who are frustrated in their relationship, are going to want to relieve that frustration, and in absence of a mature discussion between the parties, they are probably going to resort to an action which will harm the relationship further by taking away something from the other in the sense of affection, concern, loyalty, or caring. In other words, frustration really does breed disdain, and those who have contempt don’t care so much about doing something proactive and positive in order to help repair what appears to be in dire need of repair, but rather, they give in to simply being emotionally destructive, in subtle and not-so-subtle ways.
So too, the best way to take care of a potential problem is to address it before it begins to wreak its havoc, which is why couples need to make it their point to set aside time to talk to one another, without interruption, and in a way and manner in which important and meaningful things are discussed, because miscommunication as well as a lack of communication are not ever going to make for a wholesome and sound relationship. Indeed, good communication is necessary for a healthy relationship, because to believe that we are mind readers or that we know what’s really on our partner’s mind, just isn’t possible, and because we can communicate, we ought to make it a priority to communicate, because the best time to address an issue is well before it turns into something toxic, such as frustration or something much worse.
That said, some people just aren’t reasonable, especially when they fail to consider that as much as they might desire this or that, it isn’t really something that is practical or achievable, and unrealistic goals or objectives should be tempered with maturity and wisdom. After all, to believe somehow that what we want should always be granted to us, by whomever, isn’t possible and it probably isn’t prudent, because not everything that we desire from the other is fair to the other, which is why we need to understand better that troubled relationships can be somewhat complicated, and not helped by those who aren’t reasonable. To keep a relationship in a good place necessitates sensibility as well as good communication, which helps in reducing misunderstandings and frustration.