Friendships aren’t the easiest thing to maintain in the world, because undoubtedly our friends are going to disappoint us in one way or another, and because of that disappointment, we may find ourselves desiring to change them into a form that will conform to our expectations of what that friend ought to be doing in the relationship with us. The thing that people need to understand well about friendships is that the healthiest friendships are ones that allow room for error and mistakes, as opposed to being judgmental and unforgiving to the other, especially in consideration that not only is a lot of what we have to complain about, not really that big of deal in the long run, but also that we are pretty much incapable of fairly judging our own friendship as viewed by our friend, and thereby because of this flaw, we have a strong tendency to see ourselves as being far more virtuous or helpful, then we actually are, typically because we aren’t fairly judging our own self, mainly because that is impossible to do.
While it may not be the easiest thing to accept our friends as they are, it’s the best policy to have. Additionally, we shouldn’t just pout or be secretly angry when things don’t go as expected, for good communication is a necessary component of a good friendship, we thereby though need to do our part to overlook that which doesn’t necessitate a negative or critical comment, thus being careful to bring up our judgments or disappointments in the other’s behavior towards us, only when it serves a good or higher purpose.
A life without good friends is always going to be a life that isn’t going to be as good as it could be, because human beings are social beings, that need to relate one to the other, and when this is lacking, because we don’t have any close friendships this therefore makes for a more dissatisfying life, which is why we not only need to have friends, but also why we need to be good to our friends, even when we feel that they aren’t as good to us, as they ought to be. Similarly, it’s essential to have good friends, for when the chips are down, it is our friends whom we desire to lean on, so that they can be that ever-present help in trouble, helping us to get through what we need to get through.
Also, we need to acknowledge that none of our friends are mind readers, so if there is something that we need to get off our chest, then we need to bring it up, or else it will remain unspoken and therefore unresolved. Additionally, friendship isn’t necessarily always about the difficulties and issues that we have in our personal life, but needs to have a mixture of just plain fun and joy, so that in our friendships, sometimes we are going to have to leave some of our biggest troubles at home, to perhaps be dealt with on a different day, because part of friendship is the knowing that we need to enjoy our life, as opposed to just enduring it.