Each of us is born with a need to be nurtured and loved by those that are our parents, of which we are dependent upon them for our sustenance. There does come a time, though, when we are old enough, to take responsibility for our own self, of which some people, are quite adept at doing just that, whereas there are numerous others, that are slow to take the reins of what is essentially their own life. In any event, while one can credit or blame their parents, or their circumstances, for this or that, the bottom line, is that the thoughts that we have and the corresponding decisions that we make which comes forth from the actions that we generate, are our responsibility, and something that each one us must own up to.
Further to the point, those that take on the responsibility for who and what they really are, and therefore take control of the trajectory of their life, in which they do so willingly with the foreknowledge that such demonstrates their social and personal responsibility, are often going to be far more effective in the achievement of those things that mean something to them. On the other hand, those that hide from their inherent responsibility to stand up on their own two feet and thereby insist upon taking refuge behind their parents, or societal circumstances, or this or that, are merely putting off what cannot be put off, as if they actually aren't responsible for what they think, do, and say, though they are.
It is absolutely imperative, that children be taught, at a very young age, that they are responsible for their thoughts and corresponding actions, and it is the parental responsibility to do what they can in aiding their children in making good decisions that are well thought out and sensible. So that, good habits begun at a young age are obviously going to be beneficial and fruitful for those that make these their attributes to live by; whereas bad habits and sorry excuses are going to be a barrier to those that wish to successfully become someone of merit and accomplishment.
All of the things that we think and do are our responsibility, and while there may indeed be relevant and pertinent circumstances that help explain why we thought this as opposed to that, and while we did this as opposed to that, it must always be recognized that the deeds so done, are done with our signature put upon it, and none other. This thus signifies that the sooner that we recognize that we are what we think and accomplish, thereby signifying that we are indeed responsible for our own self, the sooner that we will realize that the harm and erroneous actions that we do, are harming our own self in particular and are detrimental to us as well as to others.
We are responsible for our own self, and while there are others, that may indeed strongly influence us, for better or for worse, as to what we say and do, those words that we speak are our words, and those actions that we take, are our actions. This thus means that the only one that can fairly answer for our own self is us, and we ought to want to have the right answer, and have performed in a noble manner, for we stand or fall depending upon those very things.