While there are plenty of children who get along famously with their parents, there are also a multitude of children who have their differences, of which some of those differences are quite meaningful and significant. That is to say, when we are growing up, we typically live within a construct in which our sovereignty is not in our control, but rather rests in the hands of those that are superior to us, such as our parents, which therefore means that there are inevitably going to be decisions that are going to be made, that we aren’t going to be in agreement with, of which, some of those disagreements are upsetting, especially when it seems that our voice and our viewpoint has been effectively silenced or ignored. But be that as it may, that is the way that it is, because parents have that authority, of which, there is many a child, who can’t wait for the day, when not only will they be free of parental pressure to conformance, but also that they will be able to stand up to them, and let them to know, how wrong that they were or currently are. Yet, in the end, that day may not actually occur, because the thing about time, as well as maturity, is that our perspective is subject to change, and usually that change is for the better.
While not every child is selfish or completely self-centered, there are plenty of kids who just want what they want and aren’t interested in hearing the word “No.” This isn’t too surprising, because children are prone to being impulsive, suffering from peer pressure, and also wanting to have what they believe their friends have, in the sense of greater freedom, material objects, or of choices, and when denied these very things, they aren’t going to be happy about it. Further to the point, children lack the understanding that their parents have their own issues and problems to deal with, so that even if one’s parents desire to be more accommodating, it simply isn’t going to be an available option. Additionally, while there are parents who are willing to have a discussion, a lot of times, though, they don’t see the point, because there isn’t any chance that their decision will change.
While it is seemingly true that time heals all wounds, and that the way that we remember the past, can be colored by the present, the fact of the matter is that as we get more experienced, and/or become a parent, ourself, is that we begin to perceive that our parents who seemed so out of touch, back in the day, actually not only knew what they were talking about, but more than that, we probably should have listened to what they had to say, back then, because in actuality, they really did have our best interests in mind. So then, experience does matter, especially when that experience leads to wisdom, and those who do not pay close attention to those who do know best have done so to their own regret, old or young.